I know that experiences of betrayal and back stabbing are difficult to forget. These incidents create distrust, doubt and suspicion in the minds of a leader because they don’t know who the next agent who could be used against them. The unfortunate thing is that several acts of loyalties by other people pale into insignificance and are soon forgotten. Some leaders tend to focus more on the negativities instead of the positive experiences.
Irrespective of various ugly incidents you may have gone through as a leader, never fall into the trap of not believing in others. Incidentally, both leaders and followers have experienced conditions where they lost faith in either thee leader or the follower. People lose faith in others due to several reasons, ranging from distrust, betrayal, lack of confidence, bad reputation, personality challenges or doubt about authenticity of the mission.
Either way, it will be a big mistake for any leader or follower to totally lose faith in others as a result of past unpleasant experiences. What are the common mistakes leaders/followers make that confuses other people form trusting them?
1. Poor example of commitment and devotion to a cause. Walking the talk is a better way of showing commitment than talking the talk only. Example is the best way of pointing other people behave the way you want them to. When a leader only talks and fails to demonstrate to the followers what they mean, the followers will see them as talkers and not doers.
2. Too much self-interest. When a leader is more interested in their pecuniary benefits instead of what benefits their followers, their trust of their followers will wane, and many will drop of the way. A leader must first engage in actions that benefits their followers before their self interest is brought on board.
3. Over confidence on their competence. When a leader /follower believes they have it all, it becomes difficult for them to trust anyone’s level of confidence. They inadvertently make themselves the yardstick and rate everyone against their standard. Once anyone fails to square up with them, they have no reason to trust such people.
4. Lack of empathy. They don’t understand why other people remain the way they are and what made them different. Instead of demonstrating care, empathy and understanding, they show hatred, disdain and condemnation.