One habit some of us try hard to kill as leaders is that of being a loner or a lone ranger. This is because some of us while growing up did a lot of things alone. We ate alone, went to school alone, came back alone, slept alone, woke up alone and perhaps grew up alone. We did our homework alone, watched television alone and played alone.
While in school, we worked hard to pay our way alone, and without external support. We practically grew up doing everything on our own and we are used to that kind of life introverts find as natural environment. The life of a lone ranger.
Now that these people are grown up, they see other people getting too close to them as invasion of their privacy. They have unconsciously believed that being a lone ranger is the best way to live here on earth and achieve their goals. This is the world some persons have been used to and have become their natural environment. People who grew up with this orientation tend to work in silos. They find team environment a bit strange and they keep working on their social skills to help them connect with others while a few find it very difficult to bond with other people.
They end up as lone ranger leaders who prefer to do everything on their own. Lone ranger leaders abhor working with others because they believe they can do better on their own. Lone ranger leaders are small minded and think only of what they can do and not what they can achieve through others. They can grow small businesses and teams but are not prepared to play in big waters where they can compete with sharks and whales.
Doing things alone has its advantages, no doubt. You don’t have to wait for those time wasters, you make fast decisions and it helps you to develop self-reliant skills. You get to know that your success will come because you worked for it, not because someone from somewhere made it happen. It teaches you industry, independence, survival, managing your time, resources and help you program your life the way you want it. Despite these appealing benefits, going alone does not work in extended team leadership setting since you must share space, ideas, resources and responsibilities with other people. There is a minimum requirement of attention, time and commitment you must give to other people to create synergy and team spirit. Leading people require long range behaviours,
Many people struggle with being a loner while some believe being alone is not the same thing as loneliness. To these people, being a loner leads to loneliness while being alone is a momentary time an individual set aside to reflect and reinvent their lives. Either way, a leader must place limit on being alone or loner as the calling requires mixing with others while executing a goal or project. This is because the tendency to pursue solo dreams and small activities make life unbearable and remove the joy and pleasure of sharing dreams and successes with other people which is the hallmark of leadership.